Have you ever talked to enough couples about relationship type stuff and they make you realize you might be the weirdo in the sea of normal relationships out there?
I find that the more I talk to other couples, the more I realize how different my hubs and I are from most of them. It’s not a good or a bad thing. It’s just a different thing. We do what works for us. Other couples do what works for them. So, here are the things we do that seem to be different from most everyone else.
We dated for 7 years before we got married.
Yep. We were on the fast train to Love Town. It also took us 4 years to move in together.
We have separate bank accounts.
When I say we have separate bank accounts, I mean we have NO joint accounts whatsoever. Since we lived together for 3 years before we got married, we had a bill paying system that worked for us. Once we got married, there was no reason to change it, so we didn’t. We also don’t intend on getting a joint account. When we go out to dinner or the movies, sometimes he pays, sometimes I pay. Sometimes we split it. We don’t really keep tabs on who pays what. I do think hubs pays for me more than I pay for him, but I try to contribute as much as I can.
Plus, it’s easier to buy gifts for each other and pay for secret hotel stays with strangers without the other one knowing.
We have separate bathrooms.
I wake up before hubs, so taking a shower and getting ready in the master bathroom would wake him up. So I get ready in the hall bathroom. Hubs wakes up about a half hour after I do and gets ready in the master bathroom. Separate bathrooms is more of a courtesy thing, however I do have a ton of bathroom stuff that keeps multiplying and may soon need its own guest house.
We go to bed at the same time – 99% of the time.
I can’t think of one couple I know that does this but us. Unless it’s a night where I have to get up early the next morning for a run, we always go to bed at the same time. And sometimes even then, hubs will go to bed early with me. He loves going to bed early, by the way. <—- sarcasm
We watch all the same TV shows.
I know couples that have TVs in different rooms and watch their own shows separately. We kinda see our TV shows as together time so we like to watch the same stuff. If one of the shows we like is on, but the other person is busy, neither of us will watch it until we can watch it together.
We close the bathroom door.
I had to get used to this one when I first met my hubs. He’s a door closer. I’m not. I don’t know what makes me so comfortable that I can plop down on the toliet and pee in front of (certain) friends and family, but I can. So, we close bathroom doors in our household.
We don’t wear our wedding rings.
Hubs doesn’t wear his because he hates wearing jewelry (even watches). You know those paper arm bands they put on you if you’re over 21 at a bar? Hubs can’t even wear those if they are on too tight. I think it’s a chlostrophobia thing? I wear mine more often than he does, but usually I wear big, gaudy costume jewelry that’s worth $5 instead.
We work together.
I know there are other couples out there that do this. Hubs and I work together, but we don’t work on the same project. So unless he or I make an effort to see each other at work, we don’t. We also drive to work separately most of the time. We run separate errands during lunch or want to leave at different times. It just works out better that way most of the time.
What do you do that’s different from everyone else?